You’re not imagining it. You’re not overreacting. And you’re definitely not alone.
You might be wondering: Am I with a narcissist? Is this betrayal trauma? Am I being manipulated, or am I overreacting? These questions consume your thoughts, and the uncertainty feels overwhelming.
Maybe you’ve already made the decision to leave, but now you’re facing a different kind of chaos—post-separation abuse, custody battles, or the complex journey of rebuilding your life and reclaiming your power. Or perhaps you’re still in the relationship, feeling trapped and unsure of your next move.
If you’ve found this page, you’re likely questioning everything you thought you knew about your relationship—and that takes incredible courage.
Should I stay or should I go?
You’re asking yourself the hardest question
You’re lying awake at 3 AM asking yourself: “Is this really happening to me? How did I miss the signs? Am I losing my mind?”
Maybe you’ve just discovered something that’s turned your world upside down—D-Day has arrived, and you’re drowning in a sea of lies, betrayal, and broken trust. Or perhaps you can’t shake the feeling that something is deeply wrong, but you can’t put your finger on what it is.
When your world turns upside down at 3 AM
change is possible.
I’ve walked alongside hundreds of people asking these exact questions. Whether you need someone to guide you through the aftermath of discovery, help you navigate the full therapeutic disclosure process due to deceptive sexuality and betrayal trauma, or simply help you trust your own instincts again—I’m here.
The questions racing through your mind right now? I’ve heard them all, and more importantly, I am here every step of the way to help you find the answers.
Beyond survival—what comes next
If you’re both committed to rebuilding, you’re not just trying to get back to where you were—you’re creating something entirely new. Through my work with couples who’ve experienced betrayal trauma and successfully continue their healing journey, I’ve discovered the three non-negotiables that determine whether a relationship can truly heal (most couples never learn these).
I’ll guide you through the full therapeutic disclosure process, help you even when there has been treatment-induced trauma (away from the co-dependency model), help you establish real accountability safety measures, and guide you how to rebuild intimacy with tangible, actionable repair after trust has been shattered. This isn’t your traditional couples healing approach —this is specialized betrayal trauma recovery healing.
Can we really come back from this? What does a healthy relationship even look like after betrayal?
Staying & Rebuilding: The path back to safety and trust.
Separating & Protecting: Your lighthouse and guide for healing and continued clarity
Leaving isn’t just about walking away—it’s about protecting yourself and your family while navigating complex legal, financial, and emotional terrain that spans generations. Whether you have young children at home or adult children who don’t understand why you’re “throwing away” decades of marriage, I specialize in high-conflict separations that ripple through entire family systems.
I’ll help you navigate the unique challenges of later-in-life separations: disclosure conversations with adult children, managing triggered responses when you can’t avoid your ex at family events, and the complex grief of losing not just a partner, but the family structure you’ve built together.
From strategic court preparation to establishing boundaries that protect multiple generations, I understand that some separations require healing work that extends far beyond just you and your ex-partner. Post-separation abuse and narcissistic abuse doesn’t end when someone turns 18—it evolves.
Whether you need help with multi-generational trauma healing, strategic planning for unavoidable future contact, or protecting your relationships with children and grandchildren, I’ll help you reclaim your power while preserving what matters most.
“How do I tell our adult children what really happened without destroying their relationship with their father?”
“We’ve been married 30 years—how do I navigate family gatherings where I’ll have to see them? What about our grandchildren’s birthdays and weddings?”
Choosing Yourself: Thriving on your own terms
Sometimes the choice isn’t yours to make—but your healing always is. Whether you’re here by choice or circumstance, this is where you learn to trust yourself again, identify the red flags you missed before, and recognize the green flags that signal genuine safety and respect.
I’ll help you understand the “beige flags” that could go either way, rebuild your confidence in your own judgment, and create a vision for relationships that actually honor who you’re becoming. This isn’t about going back to who you were—it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be.
How do I trust my instincts again? Will I ever be able to have a healthy relationship? How do I make sure this never happens again?
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Michellene’s intelligence and experience are unparalleled… she is the teammate you didn’t know you needed but can’t imagine doing this without.
The teammate I needed
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Michellene was the first one to validate me in my pain and trauma and let me know that I wasn’t crazy.
I never felt alone again
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Case strategy, mediation preparation, and trauma-informed counseling and planning for high-conflict situations—because moving on and healing require more than just walking away.
Protecting what matters most while you rebuild
THE STRATEGY
Specialized guidance through polygraph and therapeutic disclosure processes—because healing requires honesty, and you deserve the whole story. No matter where you are in your journey, your voice matters.
When you need to know everything (and know it’s real)
THE TRUTH
Individuals, couples, and family support to help make sense of the chaos, understand what you’re really dealing with, and decide your next steps with confidence.
Finding your answers when everything feels upside down
THE CLARITY
