You’ve been navigating a psychological battlefield where your reality was weaponized against you—and your love extracted like currency in a game you never signed up to play.
The exhausting dance of love and devaluation—it can break your spirit, shred your sense of self, and leave you questioning everything you thought was real. But hear this loud and clear: You don’t have to stay stuck. There is a way back. A fierce path to clarity, empowerment, and true healing.
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Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
You’re not “too sensitive,” “crazy,” or broken.
Core Characteristics of Narcissistic Abuse
- Toxic behaviors hiding behind charm and charisma
- Emotional manipulation: relentless gaslighting, projection, and lies
- An abyss where empathy doesn’t exist and boundaries are weapons
- Entitlement paired with contempt, unearthing terrifying rage
- The cruel cycle of idealization, devaluation, discard, and hoovering
- Deep confusion born from cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding
- Your emotions dismissed as “too sensitive” or “wrong”
- Family factions fueled through triangulation and manipulation
- Controlling every achievement or failure, tightening invisible chains
- Shaming used like a weapon to fracture your spirit
Parent-to-Child Dynamics
- Constant overreach and criticism coated in “concern”
- Subtle sabotage of your decisions, relationships, and parenting
- Twisting family narratives to isolate and discredit you
- Playing favorites to advance their agenda
In-Laws
- The “love bombing” blitzkrieg, followed by sudden cold withdrawals or furious rages
- Being gaslit into doubting your very memories and feelings
- The relentless “hoovering,” dragging you back into chaos
- Your boundaries disrespected, your autonomy stolen
Romantic Relationships
- Your work “borrowed” and your success stolen
- Micromanagement disguised as “accountability” but designed to humiliate
- Colleagues undermined to keep you off balance
- Gaslighting your competence and reality every day
Workplace & HR
- Exploiting peers or authority figures for validation and control
- Publicly diminishing others to climb social ladders
- Spreading misinformation like wildfire to maintain power
- Manipulating group dynamics for dominance
School & Education
- Cloaked manipulation masked as “charm”
- Enforcing loyalty through fear and gossip
- Destroying rivals with whispered lies
- Strategic exclusion to rule the social ecosystem
Community & Organizations
- Using scripture and doctrine to shackle your spirit
- Shaming dissenters “for your own good”
- Dismissing authentic spiritual pain
- Creating toxic hierarchies where dissent equals betrayal
Religious & Faith Communities
- Masterful image crafting hiding a fractured reality
- Attacking voices of truth with a digital army
- Manipulating followers through confusion and false narratives
- Extracting emotional and financial resources under the guise of connection
Online & Social Media
- Stirring drama like a master puppeteer
- Silent treatment and exclusion to control and punish
- Gutting reputations with poison words
- Showing cold disregard to others’ hurt
Social Circles
How Narcissistic Abuse Shows Up—Beyond Romantic Relationships
The Invisible Shackles: Cognitive Dissonance & Trauma Bonds
- Grappling with the maddening contradiction between “good” and “horrific” moments
- The sticky emotional glue sealing your trauma bond
- Rationalizing betrayal to preserve desperately needed connection
The Relentless Cycle
- Idealization: Bombarded with charm, affection, and grand promises
- Devaluation: Gradual erosion of your worth through contempt and critique
- Discard: Abrupt abandonment or cold detachment
- Hoovering: Tugging you back into chaos with false hope
Radical Space.
Real Healing.
But it also ignited my fierce commitment to be a guide unlike any other. One who holds radical space for your truth, fiercely protects your worth, and offers expert, trauma-informed healing that integrates the body, mind, and spirit.
What Makes My Approach Different?
4. Building Capacity Instead of Chasing Chemistry
Healthy relationships require work, awareness, and resilience—not just feelings. Together, we expand your capacity to recognize manipulation, enforce unshakable boundaries, restore self-trust, and foster genuine connection when possible.
5. Generational Healing and Attachment Wisdom
Exploring the family patterns and childhood wounds that left you vulnerable, we rewrite your attachment narrative with compassion, strength, and self-love.
Here’s the truth: You are not the problem. You haven’t failed; you’ve survived. I create a sanctuary where your voice is believed and your experience honored—without judgment.
2. Deep Clinical & Somatic Expertise
Trained under Dr. Ramani Durvasula herself, combined with years of specializing in complex trauma, I bring profound understanding of how narcissistic abuse rewires your brain and nervous system—and how to heal it. We don’t just talk; we transform your whole system.
3. Tailored for Your Reality
Some can break free now. Others feel trapped by finances, children, fear, or logistics. I guide you whether you’re preparing to leave, actively navigating separation, or healing within the environment you’re in, and helping you find clarity for what you need to do for next steps.
- For those able to leave: Strategic coaching on boundaries, safety, and empowerment to reclaim your life.
- For those feeling stuck: Practical tools to regulate your nervous system, reframe self-blame, and protect your emotional space daily.
This Is Your Turning Point
This is your time to reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your power. Together, we rewrite your story.
I specialize in helping people just like you find clarity in the chaos—whether you’re still deciding your path or already walking toward freedom. Fully trained and credentialed as a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician under Dr. Ramani Durvasula, I'm here for you. Whether you’re dealing with infidelity, deceptive sexuality, betrayal trauma, emotional and narcissistic abuse, coercive control, or the ongoing challenges that come after separation, I understand the confusion and fear you’re experiencing—because I’ve been there too.
Right now, you need someone who can help you see clearly through the fog of manipulation and trauma. Someone who understands that healing doesn’t end when you walk away—sometimes, that’s when you need support the most.
Whether you’re asking “Should I stay or should I go?” or “How do I rebuild after leaving?”—you don’t have to figure this out alone. Together, we’ll untangle the confusion, identify what you’re really dealing with, and create a path forward that honors your strength and your worth.
I'm Michellene Burke
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